I live to be different from a typical guy.
I live to be unique.
I live to be true to myself.
I live with clear intentions.
I live to be myself.

I happen to read this article on city news by Jeremy Choy, and I totally agree with him.
Basically there are 4 ways to win a girl's attention.

1) Be bold and secure

Women like men who are confident and secure about themselves. There is yet a fine thin line between confidence and boastfulness. Confidence never oversells while boastfulness is an attempt to sell something that is not entirely true. Respecting women for their abilities, while taking an initiative to protect and care for them is a skill many men lack today. So do invest your time in reading good books on relationships, and learn the differences between the thought patterns of man and woman, so you will know how to engage a woman without feeling like you’re walking on thin ice.

2) Be a gentleman and show generosity

Women like men to shower attention on them, especially so if the man is particularly attentive to her needs, likes and dislikes. So be observant. If you see a lady at a party that you are interested in, and you notice that she’s having trouble holding her wine glass and plate at the same time, be a gentleman and offer help. The “Ladies first” rule always works, particularly in every day situations like holding the lift door open and letting the ladies exit first. Such everyday situations sometimes lead you to the right woman.

Generosity leaves a good impression on anyone. Pay for her meal, drinks, and purchases once in a while. Women tend to think that stingy men are less likely to dote on them in future.

3) Be charming and conversational

Unfortunately for men, charm doesn’t come in a potion bottle. Instead, it is an innate ability to hold a decent conversation, maintain good eye contact and send vibes that you are genuinely listening and interested in the other party. Most women like men to take the initiative, to engage them in interesting conversation. While most men have a lasting first impression of how women looks, women often have a lasting first impression of a man who is friendly and who gave good conversation peppered with humor.

4) Be sincere

Sincerity is expressed beyond words, gifts and actions. It is a combination of it all and most importantly, it must be genuine. However, take note that you do not want to be “overly” sincere and give the wrong idea to women you have no intention of dating. Most men have a “hunter-prey” mentality. They will only focus on the woman they have identified as “prey” and ignore all other women. Such behavior is uncalled for because if things don’t work out with the “prey” then they switch attention to others, it could earn them a bad name — women talk, and they talk fast. Your reputation as a man is highly valuable. Hence, it is entirely possible to be on friendly terms with others without any ulterior motives. Be friendly but firm if you need to draw the line.

We had a meeting with Dr Niko on Tuesday... Listening to him share about how he began his ministry, I remembered the importance of the basic things as a christian, to pray, to read the bible. At the end of the meeting, I just had one thought in my head, what is my vision for my cg.

"I want to lead a cg where every person is involved in each other lives (have a friendship with each other), a cg that is united not just physically, but in spirit as well, where every person is God-loving and God-fearing."

I just thought I share this here since I've been sharing this repeatedly recently...
This is the story of how I went from the bottom pit of my academic history to achieving my goal...
In 1998, I enter the Express stream in Saint Andrew's Secondary School. In secondary 1, i struggled through and developed the hate for mathematics because of my maths teacher. I began to fail my mathematics test, and only managed to pass during the examinations. This process carried on through till i was in secondary 3. In secondary three, it was also the entry of cybergaming, I would head for the lan shops after school with my friends. As the results of excessive gaming, I failed my final year examinations with 57points... Unbelievable huh... I had 5 F9s and 2 C6. I had 2 options... 1st is to retain in secondary 3 but there will be a change in syllabus, 2nd option was to go to the N(A) Stream. I chose the 2nd option.
By now I was already actively serving in church, so this will probably create even more parental objection. I was quite devastated. But thank God for the people around me. A leader in usher shared with me his similar experience in school as well but he didn't give up, instead he decided that he can study harder and decided that he didn't need any tuition,eventually he made it through to poly.
Inspired by him, I did the same thing, I changed my mindset and began to think that if God has created all the knowledge in this world and had allowed countless people acquire these knowledge so why can't I do the same.
And so I went on to study on my own, aiming to excel in my studies. I didn't want any tuition because I felt that tuition is just getting someone to supervise you to study.
In secondary 4, I was in the top 5 of my class; scored well enough for 'N' Levels and proceeded on to Secondary 5. I set my aim to get accepted into Business IT at Singapore Polytechnic.
Eventually I scored 17points for my 'O' level examination and got into the course that i was eyed for. This is really God's grace, because it was also during this time that did even more in church.

So to all the students, be positive, set goals and believe that God has given you the ability to excel in your studies.

Read this somewhere and find it interesting...

"Don't let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life... Relationships work best when they are balanced."


"Never explain yourself to any one. Because the person who likes you doesn't need it, and the person who dislikes you won't believe it."


"When you keep saying you are busy, then you are never free. When you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time. When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow will never come."


"When we wake up in the morning, we have two simple choices. Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams. Choice is yours..."


"We make them cry who care for us. We cry for those who never care for us. And we care for those who will never cry for us. This is the truth of life. It's strange, but true. Once you realize this, its never too late to change."


"Don't make promise when you are in joy. Don't reply when you are sad. Don't take make decision when you are angry. Think twice... Act Wise."


"Time is like a river. You cannot touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again. Enjoy every moment of life..."


"First i was dying to finish my high school and start college.
And then i was dying to finish college and start working.
Then i was dying to marry and have children.
And then i was dying for my children to grow old enough so i could go back to work.
But then i was dying to retire.
And now i'm dying.
And suddenly i realized i forgot to live.

Please don't let this happen to you. Appreciate your current situation and enjoy each day."

Updates, Updates!!!
I finally finished my exams 1 week ago...
I want to say that even though there are times when i say that i got no motivation to study, I've already more or less done my revision and just whining... Whining to myself.. =)
I watched countless movies the past week. All that I ever wanted to watch before my exams..
Transferred to a youth cg..